Just A Mom Trying

Intimacy isn’t built on wild passion alone… so why does it feel like we’re failing?

Your marriage isn’t failing; your definition is static.

The love that worked effortlessly in the newlywed season is dead.

It was replaced by the chaos of children and the scarcity of time.

The love language mastered became a lie when you and your spouses needs changed.

Intimacy in the parenthood season of life requires a brutal, necessary shift.

It is no longer uninterrupted spontaneous moments of affection.

Grand gestures are no longer feasible.

It is accepting the truth of what your partner is now capable of giving.

It is letting go of the dream of unbridled passion for stable reality.

It’s giving up the right to be emotionally dramatic when past hurts are triggered.

It’s the difficult realization that self-preservation is not selfish, but vital.

You can’t pour from an empty cup and expect passion.

The conflict: one partner needs engagement; the other needs to decompress.

Intimacy is now the cup of coffee brought after a sleepless night.

It’s the quick shoulder rub given while the other is exhausted — a recognition of the weariness.

It’s words of praise, appreciation, and encouragement.

It is refusing to dismiss any need as “overthinking” or unimportant.

It is discipline: protecting five minutes of true, quiet connection.

It is choosing to listen deeply when the other partner speaks.

The currency of a strong marriage is not romance; it is mutual replenishment.

It’s the steady, daily knowledge that you are continuously choosing this life and each other.

It’s realizing you are both in it together, giving you the ability to be steadfast in the chaos.

This shared commitment is the true foundation of self-esteem.

You must both agree: We will be intentional in this chaos.