Just A Mom Trying

I think as a mom it is important for us to have our own goals. It is so easy to get swept up with all the things demanding our time and attention that our own wants, needs, and wishes get swept under the rug.

There are a lot of people that think, “You wanted this” or “You shouldn’t have had kids then,” so it invalidates our needs and emotions about those needs. Just because we are mothers, does not mean our basic human needs don’t exist anymore. It is not selfish to take care of you.

Goals or dreams, keep you grounded and help you remember who you are. It gives life more purpose and something to build to instead of being stuck in the same spot. Never growing and never changing.

Not going to lie, I do struggle with this. I start feeling that guilt and get caught up in the day to day that it seems like silly ideas that will never work out. I tell myself I should just keep focused on my normal stuff that needs to be done.

Then of course, I am always overstimulated, burnt out, and trying to pour from an empty cup. My patience has all but flown out the window and is miles down the road with no intentions of stopping. I need to do better so I can take control of me; so I can start acting instead of reacting towards every situation.

I have had this idea to start a blog for several years. But every time I would remember it, I quickly talked myself out of it. Saying things like it will never work out, you’re not skilled at that sort of thing, and who on Earth would want to read about me rambling on.

I finally decided I don’t care. I’m not standing in my own way anymore worrying about what others opinions are. I would have too much regret when I’m 80 years old for not taking the chance because among all of the negatives, it could work out. What is it going to hurt for me to just try? If I fail, then OK so be it. At least I learned something from the experience.

That’s how we are here right now. I decided to follow my goals to help my family and decided I am just going to make it work. So I encourage you. If you do the same as me and struggle, let’s do this together. You are still a person even if you are a mom and have others that depend on you. We both know you take care of them first and that their needs never leave your mind.

You still deserve to take care of you because you didn’t stop existing. Let’s stop accepting that things will never change and follow our goals and finally start them! It’s time. If not now then when? And where would you be then if you do start now?

What are you wanting to accomplish? What is holding you back? What is the first step you could take to get started? Let me know.